Sunday, October 11, 2009

Then there were 4...

I realized today that my sweet baby girl was a month old, and I had yet to post anything about her. I have plenty of pictures though, so be prepared!

The labor and delivery went just splendid. Ivy was ten days late and I was in labor for 19 hours. I went into labor with Addie on her due date, and was only in labor for 8 hours. Splendid indeed! :) We couldn't afford to deliver Addie at the birthing center this time, so we went to St. Alphonsus. They were really supportive of me wanting a non-medicated birth and tried to just stay out of my way while I labored.

We were all on our way home from getting some costume measurements (that reminds me Trinity -- we have a drinking fountain in our house because we own a dance studio behind our house and the dancers come right inside our back door to use the bathroom and get a drink. Thank you for asking:) when I had my first painful contraction. I didn't think anything of it until I had another painful contraction 6 minutes later. I had already prepared myself emotionally that I wouldn't be going into labor on my due date - so I was kind of excited that this might be it! So we went home and I told Robbie that I was going to go relax in the bathtub and if they continued for another half an hour, then we could assume it was the real thing. Well, they continued for a half hour, but then completely stopped for a half hour. I told Adelynn she better quit messing around and make up her mind whether she was coming or not! After that little pep talk, she decided to come for real. I labored at home for another 2 hours then I decided the contractions were painful enough for us to head to my moms house to labor some more. (her house is half way to the hospital, and I didn't know how fast things were going to happen so we thought it would be a good idea to not have as far to go) We were only there another hour and then it was time to go. When we arrived at the hospital I was dialated to a 4.5. P.S. I had to lay in the bed for 20 minutes so they could monitor the baby and why on EARTH any woman could labor laying down is BEYOND me! I labored another couple hours walking around and in our room then I asked to use the tub. By the time they got the tub ready, I was only able to be in there for 15 minutes before I felt my water break. As soon as the words came out of my mouth that my water just broke, I was screaming that I had to push. Seriously. Had. To. Push. So they called my doctor in while they were telling me I had to get out of the tub before I could push, so I did, all the while yelling a bit to help me not push - but I couldn't help myself. By the time I had one leg up on the bed, her head was out and by the time I had my other leg up on the bed, she was out. The doctor barely had enough time to put her gloves on to catch Addie. Because she came so fast, I did tear. That was the only hard part about a natural birth...you're not numb for the stitches! :) But I was once again SO GLAD we had a natural birth. It was a beautiful experience.

And I can't tell this story without a shout out to Robbie. I got lots of, "you did phenomenal," and "what a champ," and "I can't believe you could do that!" But to be completely honest - the only way I was able to have a natural birth because of Robbie. He is such a good coach, and supported my every second! There were a couple times he couldn't be with me during contractions, and honestly, those contractions were a lot harder to get through than the ones where he was holding me. Thank you sweetheart for being my strength!

Life since Addie has been difficult. I feel like it's been a harder transition to 4 than there was to 3. I know lots of people feel differently. We just can't seem to get into a routine. Addie has also come with her own set of challenges. She has pretty severe acid reflux. We had to try a few different medications before we found that Prevacid works best. On top of that, she has colic. This makes our nights pretty rough. Bedtime before 3 am around here is quite rare. Then because she cries so much between the two, she gives herself painful gas from swallowing so much air. It doesn't help that she also got her dad's cold. I feel so bad for her. She's seemed just plain miserable since she got here for one reason or another. When she sin't in pain she is just the SWEETEST thing ever with the CUTEST smile I have ever seen. Ever. It should all work itself out here in a few months. But this is why I haven't had a chance to post anything yet. But I wouldn't trade her for anything. I don't know what I was worried about, wondering how I could ever love another baby as much as Ivy. As soon as I saw her, out popped another piece of my heart I didn't know was there. What did we ever do without you, Addie?

Ivy has been so sweet with her. She loves to give Addie loves, and gets so excited when she's awake. Her favorite thing is to help carry her form room to room and feels so betrayed when we don't let her help. (sometimes you just don't have time to take a half an hour to go from the kitchen to the bedroom!)

So this is our new little family. Welcome home Adelynn!

12 comments:

Kristin said...

Kara - she is so beautiful! You really have a gift for birthing adorable children. I hope the transition to four starts to become easier. I can only imagine...

Emily said...

Kara, it is rough having two babies! She is beautiful, though. Luckily I got my colicky, acid reflux baby first. My second one seemed so much easier in comparison. I just think life with newborns is kind of like labor: intense and hard, but over quick. And when you look back you can't remember how hard it really was. You just see the pictures and smile. Good luck.

Lauryl said...

I love all the pictures! Miss you guys.

Its All Good Ya'll said...

OH! Talk about food for the starving! I needed those pictures so badly! Thank you for sharing. She is such a beautiful baby! I can completely relatewith your challenges! Naomi was a rough transition. She threw up everything she ate for at least the first 6 months, and she got RSV at 3 months. I had a really hard time with 2 kids until Naomi hit 6 months and then all of a sudden my sanity came back. It felt so good!

I know it is different for everyone... just be patient. Don't worry about keeping your house clean, and if a day goes by and you realize you are still in your PJ's and Ivy's hair isn't combed, and nobody has eaten anything but cold cereal, it's okay. This too shall pass and oddly enough you will look back on it with fond memories.

Love youguys so much!

Chris and Molly Wambeke said...

1st of all she is ADORABLE! It is so cute to see both of your little girls together. I am so glad that you found about her acid reflux early. It took us 4 months to finally get Eva on medicine and then it took awhile for the doctor to give us prevacid which really helped. Have you notice that she sleeps any better now that she is on the prevacid? Eva slept a little better after a few weeks of being on it - but it was still a touch and go situations but so much better than it was during her 1st few months of life. You are a great Mom!! PS - I am glad that someone else asked about the water fountain. Chris and I think that is so cool!

Sven & Trin said...

Yay! Blessings to you guys. What an incredibly beautiful family you and Robbie have, Kara. I'm thinking of you and praying for you guys.

Kristen said...

Your daughter is beautiful! Our baby has colic as well and it has been pretty challenging. Always at night usually when my husband comes home from work is when it starts. We found something called Gripe Water that helps. It's natural and has chamomile in it that seems to soothe him. After we give it to him he'll start burping and tooting up a storm and once the gas is gone, he seems to feel better. You can find it at GNC or any vitamin shop. Hope you get some sleep soon!

mom said...

Thank you Kara for posting just about the ONLY picture with ME holding Addy with John in the room! Haha - my word - I guess if my only complaint is that I get to argue over who gets to hold the grandchildren that's a great thing! I love you both so much. And I have to agree - Robbie is as amazing as his sweet wife!

mom Tolmanb said...

Kara, sounds like you are not alone, after reading all the entries. I agree with them all when they said it will pass and you won't remember plus don't worry about trying to get everything done. Just hold and kiss those sweet grandchildren of mine and tell sweet nothin's about me!!! haha And Robbie.....Kara was 100% right, you were terrific!! My heart melted when you were trying to make her comfortable. I knew my turn was over and it was YOU and HER! Love all 4 of you!!!

Stephanie said...

Miss you all- I need to see those cute baby cheeks ASAP. This weekend. You had better be penciling me in right now. Sorry about Addie- let me come take a turn with her! :)

Victoria said...

Kara-
First off can I tell you how jealous I am that your babies have the funnest hair ever!!! mine are bald:( congrats on your little addie she is adorible and you look amazing!! good luck lady with the two. lots of love.
-Victoria

Kristen said...

Hey Kara , I remembered you had posted on here that your baby has acid reflux. We've recently discovered that our baby has that too. He spits up constantly and a bunch at one time, screams like he is in pain, has sour smelling breathe, and wants to eat all the time. I thought this whole time he was colicky, but now that I read on line the symptoms of acid reflux it describes him to a T! I was wondering what have you found that works?? We gave him pepcid ac tonight and are trying that to see if it helps (we found the right dosage for a one month old and crushed it up and mixed it with a little water) If you have the time to email me with any suggestions it would be greatly appreciated!! thanks a bunch!
my email is tenthecaterpillar@hotmail.com